Was all of this somehow her fault?

At moments like those, she would slip down the hall toward Kyle’s bedroom and watch him while he slept. He slept with a white blanket curled around his head, small toys in his hand. She would stare at him and feel sorrow in her heart, yet she would also feel joy. Once, while still living in Atlanta, someone had asked her if she would have had Kyle if she had known what lay in store for both of them. “Of course,” she’d answered quickly, just as she was supposed to. And deep down she knew she meant it. Despite his problems, she viewed Kyle as a blessing. If she conceived it in terms of pros and cons, the list of pros was not only longer, but much more meaningful.

But because of his problems, she not only loved him, but felt the need to protect him. There were times each and every day when she wanted to come to his defense, to make excuses for him, to make others understand that though he looked normal, something was wired wrong in his brain. Most of the time, however, she didn’t. She decided to let others make their own judgments about him. If they didn’t understand, if they didn’t give him a chance, then it was their loss. For despite all his difficulties, Kyle was a wonderful child. He didn’t hurt other children; he never bit them or screamed at them or pinched them, he never took their toys, he shared his own even when he didn’t want to. He was a sweet child, the sweetest she’d ever known, and when he smiled . . . God he was just so beautiful. She would smile back and he’d keep smiling, and for a split second she’d think that everything was okay. She’d tell him she loved him, and the smile would grow wider, but because he couldn’t talk well, she sometimes felt as if she were the only one who noticed how wonderful he actually was. Instead Kyle would sit alone in the sandbox and play with his trucks while other children ignored him.

She worried about him all the time, and though all mothers worried about their children, she knew it wasn’t the same.