interesting happened: she started making a strong effort to gain myattention and favor. It was like the harder I pulled away, the closershe would come to me. This was the first time I noticed that changingmy behavior can affect how girls react to me.

Soon it would become clear thatinteracting with women wasn’t very different from the games I’dplay with my nice guy friends, where changing tactics and strategiesyield different results. At about the same time, I clicked a randomlink on a business forum and stumbled onto something called Tony’sLay Guide. It was the best accident of my life. This guide had tipson how to approach women, how to talk to them, how to kiss them, andhow to have sex with them. I immediately printed the entire guide incase the site went offline. It reinforced to me the idea that you canlearn how to get better, that you aren’t doomed to a life ofinfrequent sex just because you weren’t born a natural. I studiedthe guide for two months before I actually did anything. It was May2001 when I approached a girl for the first time in the line of aclub. I talked to her for half an hour and got her number, to thesurprise of me and my friends. It was probably beginner’s luck, butthis first success sold me on the idea that studying the game was aworthy cause. That’s usually how it starts for most guys gettinginto game: a random discovery followed by a first success or initialhigh when they do something they’ve never done before.

Your Goal

What is it that you want right now?Maybe you want to lose your virginity, sleep with a certain number ofgirls, find true love, or get a threesome. Or maybe you have goalsthat are more difficult to measure, like building confidence,becoming more outgoing, or becoming a better speaker. Whatever yougoal is, it’s best to express it in a statement that will act asyour guide and motivational force. Think of it as a corporation’s