It’s easy for a guy to psyche himselfout from an approach by imagining the worst possible scenario and howawful it would feel. This is more than enough to stop guys dead intheir tracks, praying that the girl has more balls than he has andapproaches him instead (she won’t). The typical negative outcomefrom an approach is usually very benign, but I can tell you whathappens in the worst-case scenario because it happened to me once inBaltimore, Maryland. A great training ground for practicing game isin the mega-clubs of Baltimore where the vibe is more friendly toplayers than other East Coast cities I’ve been to. One of thebiggest clubs in Baltimore is a place called Hammerjacks, a formerrock music venue that shut down and reopened as a dance club.

One night my friends and I were doingour usual thing of grinding with random girls. After the club closedwe milled outside where club-goers congregate until the cops sendeveryone home. It was here you’d see a type of Hail Mary game whereguys gave one last and often unsuccessful push to get in a girlspants. In this parking lot I decided to try some new material I hadthought of. I walked up to a cute white girl standing by herself andsaid, "Wow, you look drunk!"

After the words came out, I wonderedwhy I thought this would be a good opener, but it was too late. Shegot angry and said, "I’m tired of guys treating me like shittonight. What the fuck is wrong with you?"

I stood there silent, unsure of what tosay next. I think it was this silence that gave her permission tocontinue being aggressive because it quickly got out of hand. She