Another choice is to find out what behavior they generate that they name «being greedy» and give the behavior itself a new name with a new meaning. «Greed» has negative connotations, but if you give the behavior another label with positive connotations, such as «being able to meet your needs," you can change the meaning of the behavior.

A Virginia Satir «parts party» is nothing more than doing this over and over and over again, in lots of different ways. If you have a part of you that is devious and malicious, it later becomes renamed «your ability to be creatively constructive» or something else. It doesn't matter what name you come up with, as long as it has positive connotations. You're saying «Look, every part of you is a valuable part and does positive things for you. If you organize your parts in some way so that they operate cooperatively, and so that what they are trying to do for you becomes more apparent, then they'll function better.»

In the case of the stubborn daughter, «stubbornness» in the father's experience changes from being something that works against him to being something that he feels good about when he sees it occur, because he knows that this behavior is something that she will need to survive in the world. That changes his internal response.

In the other example, when the mother looked at the footprints on the carpet, she took them as a comment about her being a bad housewife—that she hadn't finished doing the things she was supposed to do. If you change the meaning of the footprints to «You're around the people you love» then her experience changes. That change in experience is really the only essential piece of any reframing model. That is what reframing is all about.