matter. Instead, look at things in terms of the big picture. What isthe trend? What happened the last ten girls you approached? If sevenof them punched you in the face but three of them wanted to bang youright there in the club bathroom, then you’re actually doing quitewell. It’ll be hard for you to make it long in the game if yourbrain absorbs every negative incident like a dirty bathroom rug. Thatdrunk white girl in Baltimore wasn’t only punching me but she waspunching my lame line, the guy who grabbed her ass in the club, andthe friend who refuses to return her Hootie and the Blowfish CD. Shewas rejecting my approach but not me because she didn’t know who Iwas. The only time a girl does reject you for who you are is when shehas known you for years. When she knows you for a minute, a day, aweek, or a month, you are not getting rejected for who you are, youare getting rejected for who she thinks you are. She is using a smallslice of what you presented to place you in a category that she canunderstand. Because we have no final say in how women see us, itmakes little sense to absorb rejection as something personal. Butunfortunately, I see guys taking it personal every time I go out.When a guy approaches a group of girls and gets blown out, you willoften hear him say something like, "Well you’re fat anyway," inthe presence of his safe group of guy friends. Once you startverbally attacking your targets, your game goes from trying tomaximize results to one of pitiful revenge.

Approach Barrier

The likelihood of you making anapproach is correlated to your mood. Your mind will not be open orready to approach if you have been especially introverted, silent, ormopey during most of the day. Those qualities shut down your abilityto take social risks, which we do in the form of approaches. It’sbest to train yourself to be "always on" in an extroverted,