talkative, and risk-taking state of mind that will increase thelikelihood of approaching. Think of yourself as my computer, which Ileave on during the day even when I’m not using it because of thetime it takes to boot up. You don’t want to go through the arduoustask of psyching yourself up just to say something to a girl you likein line at the coffee shop. The game doesn’t start when you put onyour cologne to go out at night, it starts when you are brushing yourteeth in the morning and think, "Today I will take advantage ofopportunities presented to me." You pump yourself up before youeven walk out the door, so if you do run into a cute girl thedecision to act was already made. If you find yourself in an amazingmood where you are feeling especially positive and energetic, it’dbe smart to get yourself in a place where there are girls. This is apeak state that corresponds to a higher level of success. Part ofyour mood is based on how presentable you feel to the opposite sex.If you haven’t showered in days and you are wearing wrinkledclothes picked from the hamper, and you feel like a homeless bumwearing it, you will be more hesitant to approach. You don’t haveto wear expensive clothing, but when you step out the house,regardless of where you are going, assume that there will be a goldenapproach opportunity. Do you feel comfortable talking to a girl inwhat you are wearing?

I used to only shave on Friday morningsto prepare for going out on the weekends. But then when I would stepout on the following Wednesday or Thursday, looking scraggly and notmy best (in my mind), I created a situation where it was unlikely Iwould approach. Looking mediocre except for the weekend meant I waswalking out the door five days a week mentally prepared to donothing. I was needlessly increasing the "activation energy" toapproach. Activation energy is a well-understood biochemistryconcept. One of the first things a biochemist learns is how achemical reaction occurs in the body. Your genome codes for thousands