ample footage showing how the silverback male performs doggy-style onthe females in his tribe. There is also footage of the beta gorillasmasturbating in the corner. In the ape world, the alpha male’sdominance comes from his large physical size, a trait female gorillasselect for. (If this were true for humans, the only guys getting laidwould be ‘roid monsters.) Beta male gorillas accept their lowposition until they are ready to take a risk, either by challengingthe silverback or by starting their own tribe. The alpha / betahierarchy is not much different in humans. Beta males accept theirlow position and let the minority of alpha males bang most of thedesirable women until they are ready to work on becoming alphathemselves. Back when humans lived in tribes, there were no books ortools to teach them about human psychology, behavior, or seduction.If you were a beta when you hit puberty, chances are you’d be abeta for life. But now that the right behaviors and attitude can beidentified and studied, it is easier for today’s man to become analpha male.

First let’s take a look at youraverage beta male. His number one defining trait is a fear of goingafter his desires. He does not go after what he wants because he doesnot think he is capable of getting it. He worries about otherpeople’s needs before his own. He quietly accepts beingdisrespected. He seeks out his identity in areas that are unrelatedto his masculinity, like his cubicle job. He is passive in bed andwaits for permission before escalating intimacy. He rationalizes hisfailure with women and life by attributing it to reasons outside ofhis control. He believes the best way to be successful with women ishaving model looks and lots of money. The alpha male lives muchdifferently. First and foremost, he does what he wants to do. He doesnot concern himself with personal rejection or social failure. Hisneeds, wants, and feelings come before anyone else’s. No one’s