that a particular girl likes them, they do absolutely nothing. Thefact that this fear of approaching is hardwired into our brainbecomes obvious when you ask any man to walk up to a hot woman andsay hello. Without even thinking about it, his heart starts beatingfaster, his face flushes red, and his mind fills with worry. He willhesitate and make up excuses on why he can’t do it. We can’tchange our genes so there will always be some fear, but the result ofgetting ostracized and sent off to die is no longer cause forinaction. With some guys it’s not just a fear of approaching women,but a fear of talking to them as well. Shyness is a trait that manyguys who are unsuccessful with women possess. But when it comes toshyness, genetics are no match for environmental pressure. While yourgenes determine your shyness level, you can overcome it bypersistently taking social risk until the fear becomes just alow-level annoyance. What is great about the game is that it servesto rid you of your shyness while simultaneously increasing your skillwith banging women. Short of seeing a therapist and takingmind-altering drugs that have dubious effects, the smartest course ofaction is to face your fear head-on. I don’t care if your heart isabout to explode from your chest, if your face is redder than atomato, if you can barely breathe, or if you’re on the floor havinga seizure while foaming out the mouth ― you are going to look agirl in the eyes, open your mouth, and say words. If you cannot dothis ― if you cannot contract your vocal cords to produce sound inthe presence of another human being, then you may want to contemplatebuilding a cabin in the woods where no girl will bother you.

When I was a little kid, I used to runand grab at my mother’s leg whenever a stranger was present. If Icould get over my extreme shyness with hard work, anyone can. I haveno sympathy for a man who can’t put himself through uncomfortablesituations to get what he truly wants. If he can’t do this for